An Ode to 2015 & Why I’m Letting Go of New Year’s Resolutions
I meant this post to be a letter to 2015. I was going to write about all that I accomplished and became in the last year. But as I began to write, I realized most of my 2015 resolutions are still left unchecked. I didn’t lose weight. I didn’t become financially free. I didn’t move somewhere tropical, and I sure is hell didn’t buy a home in Hawaii. Yet this trip around the sun has been life changing (as they always are). And I now realize that those resolutions don’t matter or at least not the way I thought they did a year ago. They no longer define my happiness or my quality of life.
Uncover your personal values in less than 30 minutes and witness your life transform!
There are many shifts you can make that will change your life, from practicing gratitude, to journaling, to meditating and yoga, but if I had to choose one, just one to teach and preach, it would be personal values. If you’re craving change, feeling stuck or lost, my biggest piece of advice would be to identify your values and then design your life around them. You can do this exercise today, right now, in less than 30 minutes, and it will forever change the way you live your life. Knowing my values changed my life and I’ve seen it change my clients lives too.
28 ways to practice radical self love
Oh how I love the fall, especially the epic sunsets that happen here in the Bay Area. The long nights ahead are a time to slow down, rejuvenate, nurture, and reconnect with ourselves. Since this time of year naturally cultivates a desire to go within, it’s a great time to begin or deepen your self-love practice. Here are a few ideas on how to fall in love with yourself this fall.
Learning to THRIVE (Not Just Survive) Mercury Retrograde
So it’s that time again, you know when Mercury goes retrograde and wreaks total havoc on our lives, but here’s the thing, even in times of chaos we have a choice, and we can choose to thrive (not just survive) Mercury Retrograde! Here are tips on how.
How to find yourself when you're lost AF and don't know where to start!
The reason I am so incredibly passionate about self-discovery is because for years I lived a lie, a life for others and in doing so I lost a part of myself, a HUGE part. One day I woke up and realized I was miserable. I did everything I was “supposed” to by society’s standards - went to college, worked my way up in my chosen profession, made a good salary, and lived in a fabulous San Francisco apartment. From the outside in, it appeared as if I had everything, but from the inside out, I was screaming, a silent scream nobody could hear but me. I ended up taking drastic measures - quit my job, walked away from life as I knew it and bought a one-way ticket to Bali.
Embracing what is = MAGIC!!!
Lately I’ve been on a journey of learning to embrace what is and it’s been pretty magical, so I knew I needed to share it with you so you can bring the same magic into your own life. A few weeks ago I shared with you a raw, vulnerable and real blog post about a recent funk I went through. During this post I said, “When we fight our reality it gives control to everything that’s not working in our lives. When we embrace our reality (even if it doesn’t feel good) it creates space for what is to simply be. Once I stopped fighting my current situation, spaciousness was created and the desperation for change subsided. I began to feel lighter, happier and at more peace. Our darkest moments often bring the biggest breakthroughs and my recent funk has catapulted me into a beautiful, awe-inspiring journey of learning to embrace what is.
What to do When Life Sucks & You’re Desperate for Change
Have you ever felt desperate for change? Like life sucks? Felt frustrated that life isn’t working out the way you want it too? Maybe you’ve just felt really low and nothing seemed to bring you much happiness? Lately, I went through one of these all consuming moods and it kinda sucked, actually it really sucked. Regardless of what I tried I just couldn’t shake it and it seemed to go on for weeks.
Books That Will Rock Your World & Change Your Life
A Buddhist Proverb says, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear”. When I think of this quote people don’t come to mind, but rather books. All of the books that have found their way into my life when the timing was perfect. When I needed them. As if it were fate so they could guide me, teach me and change my life profoundly. Here are books that have rocked my world and changed my life (and could do the same for you...)
From Rock Bottom to Learning to FLY
A few months ago I was collecting content for my Ebook Learning to FLY and I came across the below journal passage which I wrote on March 10th, 2009. Exactly 6 years ago to the day that I refound it. Since I don't believe in coincidences I knew I needed to share it with you - raw, vulnerable and unedited.
She Let Go, a Poem by Safire Rose (plus free download)
These words have helped me through some of the hardest times in my life. Enjoy!
She let go. Without a thought are a word, she let go. She let go of the fear. She let go of the judgements. She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her. She let go of all the 'right' reasons.
Want to find TRUE freedom? Read this.
Slowing down has been a theme in my life, so I assumed this was the lesson to be learned. I’m in the process of learning to do less and do the task at hand with more integrity. I’m learning to say no more (many times to myself) and not let the “to-do” list rule my life. This lesson alone has been liberating, but I knew the Universe was trying to teach me something deeper, something that I have been avoiding.
Lessons from Solo Traveling in Bali
As I write this, I’m sitting on my balcony gazing out at Ubud, a place that exudes beauty in all that it is. From the people with their big smiles and giving hearts, to the sounds of the birds and the geckos, to the vibrant green rice paddies, and the offerings they handcraft daily. My heart is filled with gratitude that I get to experience such a wonderful place for a second time.
4 Steps to manifesting anything you want!
This blog post wasn’t on my radar, but the story behind how I recently & effortlessly manifested a new camera is so awesome that I knew I needed to share it with you right away so you can learn to manifest anything you want too!
How to declutter your life: physically, emotionally & energetically
Over the last month I’ve devoted a huge amount of time to decluttering. Emotionally, energetically and physically. I would ask myself, “Is this coming along on my new journey?” and when the answer was no I let it go, regardless of what it was. It didn’t matter if it was a $200 pair of jeans that were too small, mismatched utensils, or a self sabotaging thought. If the answer was no, I let it go. I spent several weeks doing this process. Item by item, room by room, thought by thought.
33 Life Lessons
My life has turned out nothing like I thought it would. When I was younger I dreamed of being a successful business woman wearing name-brand suits and a closet full of shoes. I dreamed of driving fancy cars, owning a huge home and being married with 2 ½ kids. I envisioned the American dream super sized and assumed I’d have it all by 28. Now at 33 this vision makes me laugh and my life is far from it. Life often doesn’t turn out how we envision it when we’re 6, but it can turn out so much better if we let it. Here are 33 I’ve learned thus far.
The Secret to Goal Setting
You know the feeling, stoked for the New Year, full of inspiration, motivation and enthusiasm. This year WILL be different. It’s going to be the year you climb out of credit card debt, fall in love and finally reach your ideal weight. This is YOUR year and it’ll be like no other. You know it! Then, the end of January rolls around and you’re back to your usual ways. Going to happy hour instead of the gym, staying in instead of putting yourself out there and going on a blind date. Indulging in retail therapy getting yourself further into debt because you feel like shit that you didn’t stick to your resolutions, yet again! The inspiration, motivation and kick ass mentality that you were feeling a few weeks ago is gone, gone, gone! The sad truth is we set ourselves up for failure even before we begin.
7 WAYS TO PRACTICE RADICAL SELF LOVE DURING THE HOLIDAYS
This time of year is magical, but with all the joy this season brings it can also bring an equal amount of stress. The calendar is jam packed with obligations, the airports and malls are chaos, indulging replaces healthy diets, and normal budgets go out the window in the spirit of giving. All things which can cause a massive holiday hangover.
Is it time for a social media detox?
I’ve just come off of a 3 week social media hiatus, and to be honest I’m not sure how I feel about stepping back into the land of social media. The fact that I felt the need to take a break still blows my mind. But like most things in life when something isn’t working it’s time to step back and evaluate why. My relationship with social media is no exception.
7 Steps to get unstuck, gain clarity & live the life you dream.
I just returned from vacation so I’m feeling inspired to take action and make some changes in my life. Anytime I step outside my normal routine and the grind of life, space is created for my true desires to re-emerge. I love that the timing coincides with fall. The natural energy of the season is to go inward. It’s the perfect time to cozy up by a fire, create vision boards and get clear on what you want in your life. There’s no better time than the present to start living the life you dream. You don’t need to wait for the New Year to create resolutions. You can start today.
HOW TO DEAL WITH EMOTIONAL VAMPIRES
Recently I was in the presence of someone who exudes negativity. Everything out of their mouth was a complaint, or no, or I can’t. In their presence I felt my body becoming tense, as if I was being pulled into their darkness. My mood shifted from happy to heavy. This person is what I like to call an emotional vampire. Emotional vampires are the people who suck the positive energy right out of you. You may become tense, angry, or irritated in their presence. They thrive off of drama and chaos.