Is it time for a social media detox?
I’ve just come off of a 3 week social media detox, and to be honest I’m not sure how I feel about stepping back into the land of social media. The fact that I felt the need to take a break still blows my mind. But like most things in life, when something isn’t working it’s time to step back and evaluate why. My relationship with social media is no exception.
Why I needed a break:
I found myself spending too much time scrolling mindlessly through Facebook & Instagram. Often times without even thinking about it. It was second nature to open my computer and log onto Facebook. Or snap a photo, instantly share it on Instagram and check how many likes I received instead of being present in the moment. The tipping point was when I noticed that I began comparing my life to others. It’s said that comparison is the thief of joy and that’s true for social media comparison too. I found myself desiring what others had and even felt a bit jealous. With this feeling arising I knew it was time for a break.3 weeks later and I’m back with a new perspective.
Here’s what I learned:
It's all about balance, baby!
Everything needs balance including social media. I would automatically sign in without really thinking about it and therefore check Facebook, Instagram, and even my email several times a day. Not for any reason, just out of habit and a bad one at that. Thankfully my 3 week cleanse broke this habit. Moving forward when I log on it will be a conscious decision, not out of habit.
What would you do with an extra hour a day?
The number one thing I noticed was how much more time I had in my life. Time for projects I had been putting off, time to tackle the reading pile on my nightstand and time for tasks around the house. All things I claimed I didn’t have time for. Turns out I did, I was just using my time unwisely.“I don’t have time” is the number one excuse I hear from clients and myself. How much time do you spend on social media a day? What could you do with that time instead? Say an extra hour a day? Just something to think about.
Live the moment. Share it later.
During my hiatus I got a puppy. A ridiculously cute puppy who I wanted to share with the world, but I didn’t and I’m glad. I got to enjoy her. Every moment of her first days in her new home. There was no checking Facebook to see how many likes I got or who liked her and who didn’t. The moment was intimate and mine. I can’t wait for more moments like that.Instead of posting moments immediately I challenge you to post them later. Stay in the present, enjoy it, soak it up and share it with the world later.
It's OK to be selective!
I value deep connections and desire to be seen for my true self. Over the years I have learned to choose quality over quantity with regards to friendship. But on social media I’ve never been selective of who I befriended. Now, as a result, my newsfeed is filled with the lives of people that I’m not interested in. Harsh, but honest.I realize now that it’s OK to be selective of who I let into my social media community. More does not equal better. The number of Facebook friends I have does not validate anything.There’s no denying that social media has become an integral part of our lives; from how we connect with friends around the globe, to how we share moments with our families, and even how we keep up on current events. Regardless of what your relationship is with social media just make sure it’s a positive one and makes you feel good!
XO, emily