An Ode to 2015 & Why I’m Letting Go of New Year’s Resolutions
I meant this post to be a letter to 2015. I was going to write about all that I accomplished and became in the last year. But as I began to write, I realized most of my 2015 resolutions are still left unchecked. I didn’t lose weight. I didn’t become financially free. I didn’t move somewhere tropical, and I sure is hell didn’t buy a home in Hawaii. Yet this trip around the sun has been life changing (as they always are). And I now realize that those resolutions don’t matter or at least not the way I thought they did a year ago. They no longer define my happiness or my quality of life.
The Secret to Goal Setting
You know the feeling, stoked for the New Year, full of inspiration, motivation and enthusiasm. This year WILL be different. It’s going to be the year you climb out of credit card debt, fall in love and finally reach your ideal weight. This is YOUR year and it’ll be like no other. You know it! Then, the end of January rolls around and you’re back to your usual ways. Going to happy hour instead of the gym, staying in instead of putting yourself out there and going on a blind date. Indulging in retail therapy getting yourself further into debt because you feel like shit that you didn’t stick to your resolutions, yet again! The inspiration, motivation and kick ass mentality that you were feeling a few weeks ago is gone, gone, gone! The sad truth is we set ourselves up for failure even before we begin.
Why chasing the feeling is more powerful then the goal
Living your best life happens when you live in alignment with your true desires, values and authentic self. When you let go of the shoulds and thrive in the magic, creation and manifestation of your dreams. I’m an advocate of setting and achieving goals to move forward in life and towards the direction of your dreams, but I think goal-setting strategies are flawed.